By Lisa Chandler, 23 June, 2025

If I was making a highlight reel of our weekend, our visit to the pesticide showcase would make the cut. 

I loved it. 

Peter didn’t yes, and me quite as much as I hoped. And I didn’t dare film the bored looking, unsmiling Canadian Tire guy who came to tell us that only his manager had the key and we’d have to wait five minutes. I wish I could have. He was an excellent straight man. 

I also wish I could have captured the friendly manager who arrived to help. I admit that we smirked a bit when he said he’d need to leave our controlled substance at the check out until we finished shopping. 

Next time I encounter the makings of comedy gold, I’ll have waivers on hand. 

By Lisa Chandler, 22 June, 2025

For months, I have been feeling some anxiety about all the work we’d need to do to get ready for some summer home exchanges we are hosting. 

I made a mind map. I cajoled Peter into translating it into tasks on our phones. And then I continued to worry that he would not realize the passing of time. I worried that we’d end up doing almost everything in the last week. And then I worried that if anything else sprung up, like say two funerals last week and other things that need our attention, we’d be sunk. 

“Anxiety builds in our idle hours”,  says author Brianna West. “Fear and resistance thrive when we are avoiding the work”. 

I felt like we were avoiding the work and just talking about the work. I wanted us to chip away at the work. And I wanted us to start a few months ago. 

What I realize now, is how much energy I put into the idea that we should start, yesterday. And admittedly, I also held on to the idea that there was no use in me starting until Peter was on board. But sheesh, getting him to feel urgency was not working at all. 

I realize that as much as I like to plan first, I am biased to action. It’s what I got angry about the other day. I am Hoss Chandler’s daughter after all. And I believe that most tasks can be fun and rewarding in the right contexts. For me, the most rewarding context is collaboration, a “we’re in this together” feeling. Plus snacks. 

It gets confusing though, as ambitious action has been a life-long coping strategy too.  Those who know me well, know that I used to make peoples’ heads spin with my constant movement on many fronts. I was avoiding slowing down so I could avoid feeling feelings. 

These days, I feel my feelings but it also feels good when I take the next logical action(s) and have time to reflect and rest if I need it. Just thinking about action will never soothe me in the way that forward action does. 

This weekend, we accomplished a bunch of things. So of course I feel good. And we know we have a bunch more to do this week.  It will get done.  Peter and I are gradually finding a “win for all” in the way we do work together. 

I like how Brianna West concludes her essay:  “it is easier to act your way into a new way of thinking rather than think your way into a new way of acting, so do one little thing today and let the momentum build.”

Ironically, for me the work is in letting go of there being a right way to do things, trusting the process and others. 

But I am always going to feel good in the doing. It is who I am. And I like this about me! 

By Lisa Chandler, 20 June, 2025

Today I had a kick ass workout. I felt strong. Happy. Accomplished. Grateful. Lucky. 

Then I got home and instantly felt angry. Something triggered me and I went from a cool cloud nine to a warm anger. It wasn’t a raging feeling at all. It was more like a “This is not ok” sensation. 

I took a shower. The “This is not ok” stayed with me in a loop, even though I tried to broaden my perspective. In years past, I would have kept this loop going and expended way too much energy. I would have thought of all the reasons it was my fault and all the possible ways to address it. 

This time, rightly or wrongly, I communicated my “This is not ok” right after my shower. I wouldn’t be able to do this if I didn’t trust myself more than I used to.  I wouldn’t be able to do this in some of my relationships. But I could do it in this case, and know that even if I am angry, I will still be loved. And that is a big deal. 

By Lisa Chandler, 19 June, 2025

Dear Lisa of the Future,

I’m completed day 15 of a 30 day yoga series, doing sessions on any day I am not doing a workout versus every single day.

I’ve done these series before and it’s been very positive. Yet I have also stopped every other time after a series or two.  Did I get bored? Did I think the benefits would endure even if I didn’t practice? Did I think my commitment to it needed to be 100 percent in order to embark? 

  • I cannot remember. So this is what I want to lock in: There is only upside to practicing yoga!
  • With just 15 times on the mat so far, I am more flexible and strong.
  • Sometimes my brain truly does shut down and I can be in my body paying attention.
  • Some good ideas have shown up without any effort.
  • I feel proud that I am taking care of myself and that good feeling spells over into other aspects of my day.

At some point in the future, if the past is a guide, I will stop practicing again.  I will drift away from it for whatever reason even though I truly believe that yoga brings me vitality now and a greater probability of staying alive and healthy for longer.  I am the mother of a teen and a twenty something year old. Being alive, healthy and vital for a long time matters a lot to me.

So I am writing this little reminder to my future self. Keep going to your mat. Some days you will feel tired, rushed, bored or resistant.  Go anyway. Consider it a win if you take a few deep breaths and roll your spine up and down a time or two. Make this investment in you for you and the people you love.

Namaste, 
Lisa

P.S. Don’t forget The Long Time Sun, the song you loved from Kundalini yoga this past winter.

By Lisa Chandler, 18 June, 2025

Frustration is …blah, blah, blah…uncomfortable….common…resistance…impatience…

Jump to recipe

Ingredients*:

1. Try to write a blog post that you feel obligated to write, because of a promise you made.

2. Spend a lot of time drafting the post that feels too vulnerable to share.

3. Meanwhile, spray your very dirty oven which needed to be cleaned about six months ago.

4.  Make arrangements to attend a wake later in the day.

5. Clean the oven. Rinse repeat. Rinse repeat.

6. Postpone going to get groceries until the very last possible minute.

Method:

1. Spray cleaned oven with vinegar and heat with door open to diffuse chemical smell.

2. Almost text your boyfriend that you cleaned the oven and it sucked. Opt to spare him.

3. Decide not to post the vulnerable blog post that was ironically about frustration and frustration tolerance and make up this “recipe” instead because of ingredient 1 above  

4. Sit with your freshly baked frustration and see how long you can be with it.

*Any combination of ingredients you don’t enjoy will work. The frustration will taste stronger the more you feel you cannot tolerate it.

Enjoy!